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Q: 2nd parent adoption
3 yrs ago, we welcomed a new baby boy. Happiest day of my life. 2nd parent adoption was started but not completed. After years of cheating on her part, we split up. Now I have filed a SAPCR aND we are going to court. I find it disheartening that I'm having to go through this for a child I have been there for since before birth. He was a frozen embryo. We picked him out together, I went to every dr appt, he has my last name, and he's been on my insurance. We broke up and she took him without warning. This can't be right . This can't be the only option for same sex parents but sadly it is. He is my son no matter what. What advice if any can you provide? This seems to be an all too familiar problem in our community. Awareness should be raised
A: Response from Joyce Kauffman
Unfortunately, this is a very common problem. When a parent does not have a legal relationship to her child, in many (if not most) states, it is extremely difficult to assert any parental rights. I agree with you that our community needs to be made aware of this issue. Adoption is the best way to secure parental rights, but all too often a break-up occurs before that can happen or people are not aware of the necessity of creating a legal relationship. I'm glad you are pursuing your parental rights and I wish you all the best in that endeavor - your son deserves to have those he views as parents recognized legally!
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Cliff Greenberg, Esq, has devoted his entire legal career to helping children and families. After graduating from the George Washington University School of Law, he joined the Legal Aid Society's Juvenile Rights Division in Manhattan as a Law Guardian, where he worked tirelessly to ensure that the city's foster children were protected and placed in loving, permanent homes.
Joyce Kauffman is a graduate of Northeastern University School of Law and was admitted to the Massachusetts Bar in December 1992. She has a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology from Lesley College (now Lesley University) and a Bachelor's degree in Child Development from the University of Massachusetts/Amherst. Attorney Kauffman is also a trained Mediator and Collaborative Lawyer; the focus of her legal practice, based in Cambridge, Massachusetts, is LGBT family law and traditional family law.
At International Fertility Law Group (IFLG), Richard B. Vaughn provides legal services nationwide to clients from all over the world hoping to build their families through assisted reproduction as well. Among many other volunteer activities, Rich Chairs the A.R.T. Committee of the ABA Family Law Section. Rich has also served on the National Board of the American Fertility Association (now Path 2 Parenthood).