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Q: Young TransDaughter needs support

I have an almost-7 year old transgender daughter. She has transitioned completely and uses a female name and female pronouns. She has become happier, more confident, and is doing better in school. My ex WAS 'reluctantly' supportive - he didn't like it but didn't want to hurt our child. It took him a long time to switch names/pronouns and that only happened about a month ago. This week when I picked my kids up from him (an older boy as well) my daughter was in boy's clothing and visibly agitated and upset, in a way I haven't seen in months. The kids said my ex allowed his mother to come over and spend a lot of time trying to "compel" my kiddo to revert to her birth gender. Now that household is refusing to use proper name/pronouns... and has been completely uncooperative in getting my kiddo to a therapist who is experienced with transgender kids. I want to try for legal custody so that I can get her a therapist and so that in the future she can get puberty blockers/hormones as she needs them without each thing becoming a legal battle! Right now we have joint legal and physical custody (kids spend 4 days per week with me and 3 with him). We're in NM, we talked to a great lawyer who was very cautious about our chances. And very, very expensive. Should we try for legal custody? Are we risking having her taken away from us because we support her transition? We don't want her to lose the only support she has (us) and we don't want to lose her.. but we're concerned about her mental health if my ex keeps refusing to acknowledge her identity (or even allow us to get her to a therapist who could help her).


A: Response from Will Halm

The best place for you to start is NCLR - the National Center for Lesbian Rights. They are one of the top legal organizations in the country helping those with transgender legal issues.

Shannon Price Minter Esq. | Legal Director National Center for Lesbian Rights | www.nclrights.org 870 Market Street, Suite 370, San Francisco, CA 94102 415.624.6071 (w) | 415.392.8442 (f) sminter@nclrights.org

Warm regards and best of luck.

 
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